I met wonderful, interesting men, who showed me parts of New York I hadn't known—all very rom-commy and joyful. However I put my disinterest in children, these men would eventually tell me how much wanted babies (more than one told me how beautiful I would look pregnant). So I took it a step further and explained how terrified I was, physically and mentally, to be pregnant, to care for needy small humans.But just like a formulaic movie plot, they all wanted kids. Age had something do with it: I was in my early 30s. And I would very nicely tell them they were dating the wrong woman, extricate myself, and move on. Two different, otherwise wonderful, handsome, and brilliant men said they "understood" after I opened up about my fears.After a few dates with a new man, the inevitable would happen: "You will be such a great mom."Baffled, I'd then be left with my gabbling mouth (I'm not talented with the pithy response).
It's probably best you move along if either of you wants something long-term.2. Instead of pretending you know what it's like, ask questions and be humble. It's also a real question that single moms actually hear. Don't be surprised — or rude — when she hasn't heard the latest from Beyoncé or seen any movies.
After assuring my husband that this wasn't some elaborate scheme to cheat on him, I decided to see whether or not checking the "has a kid" box made me more or less desirable in the online dating world.
I created profiles on two online dating sites: Plenty of Fish (POF) and Ok Cupid. I chose those sites mainly because they both ask whether or not you have children when creating your profile.
When we broke up and I entered the NYC dating carousel, I was 30 and had no idea what I was doing.
But, contrary to all the horror stories I'd heard, I had fun.